Our families are the heart of our life as a community, and a strong marriage is the heart of the family. That is the reason we require a lead time of at least 6 months to a year to help our couples prepare for marriage. “A wedding is a one-day celebration, marriage is for a lifetime.” There are five steps in the process we use. [Note: the first four steps of the process must be completed before any invitations' are to be printed.]
1. There is an initial interview with the priest to get the process started.
2. We use the FOCCUS instrument to help the couples open a discussion of all areas of married life. A wedding date is ordinarily not chosen until this part of the process is complete. Once the date is set, the parish Director of Music should be contacted, since all music and musicians must be approved through that office.
3. “Today and all the days of your life”, is a series of 8 classes covered in four meetings. When necessary other options are available and can be discussed with the Priest or Deacon. Each couple is required to attend Sunday Mass. Finally, after all this has been completed, the couple and Priest or Deacon plan the wedding, pick scripture readings and prayers, and discuss other aspects of the wedding. We use the booklet, Together for Life, to facilitate this process.
4. There is a rehearsal the evening before the wedding.
5. The Wedding Day is the first day of the rest of your lives.
Marriage Preparation Fees For FOCCUS And Classes
$40.00 covers the preparation program and $75.00 covers the use of the church for the rehearsal and the ceremony.
All fees can be paid at any class during preparation.
A roman Catholic wedding is a liturgy of the Catholic Church. Only things appropriate to Catholic worship are allowed. The following guidelines are intended to help the couple and their guests participating.
1. Weddings may be scheduled on Saturday at 10:00 am in the morning or 1:00 pm in the afternoon. Weekdays or evenings are also available, with the exception of major feast days such as Christmas Day and New Years Day.
2. A rehearsal is conducted under the direction of the presiding priest the evening before the wedding. It is the responsibility of the couple to obtain the marriage license and bring it to the priest at the time of the rehearsal. NO LICENSE= NO WEDDING!
3. Music for weddings must be approved by the Parish Coordinator of Music. There is a list of acceptable music, following the basic principle that we have sacred music in sacred spaces. Only parish approved musicians and cantors are allowed to lead the music at weddings.
4. The entrance procession for weddings during regular parish liturgies shall be a “liturgical procession”: acolyte with cross, groom with mother or parents, wedding party as couples, bride with father or parents, and celebrant.
5. In addition to the exchange of vows and rings, some couples request other ceremonies as part of their wedding. Among those which are acceptable are: a unity candle, coins (arras) and the lasso.
6. Only parish-approved Proclaimers and other ministers are allowed to minister at weddings. The couple needs to check this out with the Priest or Parish Coordinator of Music during the preparation process.
7. Concerning photography: This can be distracting at the wedding. The photographer must check with the priest well in advance of the wedding day.
8. Concerning cleanliness of the church: We ask that the bridal party clean up all their papers, boxes, coat hangers, etc., in the church, the lobby, and the bride’s dressing room. No rice, birdseed or other similar material is to be thrown at the couple in the vicinity of the church. (Soap bubbles are acceptable) No flower petals are to be thrown in the church.
9. The Dioceses of Pueblo does not allow weddings to be celebrated anywhere other than in a Roman Catholic church building. An exception is made when one party is not Catholic, in which case the wedding may be celebrated in the church of that person, after Catholic preparation and with proper permission.
10. A couple living in another city should do their preparation at the parish to which the bride belongs in that city. However, they must also contact a priest here as early in their preparation process as possible, so that necessary arrangements can be made.
Trinidad Area Catholic Community